Soul searching can be scary–and nobody has the right answers. But there are tools to help you get the most out of it to accelerate your growth and begin to be the best you can be, from the inside out.
For the remainder of this blog, we’ll use Soul & Spirit interchangeably–understanding that there are many schools of thought for higher thinking and enlightenment. While the words will change to fit context, the meaning shouldn’t–our job today is simply to call attention to the differences between body and spirit, and how those distinctions can help improve your daily life and change your outlook on the future.
Ego & Soul
They go together, hand in hand, yin and yang, peanut butter and jelly, white women on instagram and Bo Burnham making fun of white women on instagram. But do we really know how to separate the two, and what that means?
Often you hear a great deal about the ego being selfish and centric, while the soul is whole–unity driven and existing in a higher consciousness. While this is true, it isn’t indicative of the labels “bad” & “good,” as neither are either.
Know that as we delve deep and search within, many of the ego driven responses in your life are necessary for survival–they compel our gut reactions and drive intensity and necessity for self-care, which is crucial. The soul looks to strengthen and uplift the whole, setting aside the self and quieting the ego so that unity and togetherness can be achieved.
There are days we need ego, and there are days we need spirituality–certainly we do not think we can uplift the whole (soul) if we are not seeking out to meet our most basic personal needs (ego). The practice of liberating your spirit is not that you walk around in transcendence at all times–that might even get a little boring.
Instead, think of liberation as the freedom to choose–at all times, are you taking care of yourself and your soul (ego) or are you taking care of the souls of others (spirit).
The Mask We Wear
Another major differentiation between ego and soul can be the titles that are given to us (ego) and the mantles we choose to wear and who we are at our core (spirit).
Typically the titles given to us put us in a place of assumed responsibility, i.e. “sister, mother, daughter, lover, friend, provider…etc.” Inversely, the mantles we wear, or who we believe we are at our core are non-associative but rather ambition or qualitative driven, i.e. “funny, ambitious, quirky, simple, exuberant, excessive, minimal, musical…etc.” Think of the difference as attributes vs titles.
When going through your daily routines its important to ask yourself, “Is this me, or is it expected of me?” “Is this the mask I wear or does this fulfill me.” This process is akin to Marie Kondo-ing your soul. Does it spark joy? Is it fulfilling? Is it expected? Has it been placed upon me?
It’s vital to reiterate–titles and mantles are not expressly adverse or liberating in their own right–it’s how and why you use them. Having the title of Mother does not mean you cannot put yourself first, or that you’re forgoing the greater good when you do. By that same standard, putting yourself second for the needs of the child does not mean you have betrayed your self worth, or lost your sense of personal integrity–it’s just a means whereby you decide how truthful you are being with yourself.
Getting to the root of how and why can be scary and oftentimes difficult. Asking introspective questions can be daunting when facing big emotions, or even little emotions that we’ve never confronted before.
As we traverse through our growth, many of us will experience that little voice or gut feelings–sometimes they’re good thoughts and sometimes they’re painful and scary. In the process of liberation, the more we lean into scary emotions and first time feelings, the greater our path to healing. Oftentimes, that little voice is telling us where healing needs to take place, not what emotions and feelings we need to ignore.
Before we ask some internal questions, let’s find a way to still and ground ourselves so we can be more open to our own answers. You may have seen this exercise before, but breathwork can be incredibly grounding and freeing. Give it a try.
- Breathe in through the nose for 8 seconds.
- Hold for 4 seconds.
- Breathe out through your mouth for 8 seconds.
Note: Try and create some resistance against your lungs so that the air is pressurized and flows out evenly and consistent for all 8 seconds. Tighten your lips, and relax your cheeks so they expand when you breathe out.
Our natural breathing rhythm when we sleep tends to be, ”In for x amount of seconds, out for equal. The lungs usually hold that capacity for half the time it took to breathe in.” We want the whole thing to feel even, if it feels rushed at the beginning or at the end, slow down and try again.
A bit of breathwork can be a big deal. It’ll help bypass the vagus nerve, drown out anxiety static, and help set you up to ask some introspective questions about your emotions, your body, and your process of restoration.
Questions To Ask Yourself
Now that you’ve gone through some grounding, keep that peace and turn your thoughts towards you, your growth, and where you want to be.
Remember, as you traverse these introspections, there are no wrong answers–these are only checkpoints to help guide you.
- Do you put yourself first?
- Look through a window, you see yourself in ten years–what does that image look like?
- A different window shows you ten years in the past? What advice would you offer that smaller human?
- Which version(s) of yourself do you need to release or forgive today?
- What are the qualities (not titles like: mother, lover, or friend) your closest loved ones would attribute to you?
- What are the qualities (not titles) you attribute to yourself?
- Do those qualities align? Why or why not?
- With those qualities in mind, what fears do you have about facing your emotions? What healing scares you the most? Why?
Some of these questions and practices can be scary, and tough. Take a minute when you’re done and breathe again–connect to your surroundings and ground yourself.
First and foremost, be proud of yourself. Even if you didn’t do the exercises, you got through this blog–even reading about growth can be a little daunting sometimes.
As you continue these practices daily, you’ll find the egoism and spirituality that doesn’t always align with you will become easier and easier to accept. Surrounding yourself with a solid support group is always helpful. Knowing that you have someone to call on can make a world of difference as you traverse the unknown of spiritual liberation.
Face your fears head on, purposefully choose ego and soul, and don’t apologize for understanding what drives you, fuels you, and fulfills you. Ever.
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